There are situations in life where there is no clear answer. One thing you can do when you’re completely lost is to seek help on the Internet. I’m hoping someone will offer a whole new perspective or share some advice that suddenly makes all the sense. Many redditors turn to the AITA online community for verdicts about difficult and emotional situations.
Recently, redditor u/Clerxudehuntemu Asked for Subreddit Opinion about whether he was wrong in wanting his 12-year-old cat, Bubba, to live with him. Here’s the redditor’s full text and how the internet reacted to it.
This topic is very sensitive and some pandas may find it difficult to read about. bored panda I reached out to u/Clerxudehuntemu via Reddit for comment.
Having to let go of a beloved pet is a difficult decision
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A man shared how he and his wife debated bringing his cat, Bubba, back home after a family tragedy
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Our pets are our best friends in thick and thin. I can’t imagine that one day I’ll have to voluntarily let go. The only reason may be for someone we love dearly, as is the case with u/Clerxudehuntemu. After becoming pregnant, he gave Baba to her parents when his wife asked Baba to do so.
“Baba is very affectionate with me, very sweet and cuddly. He tolerates my wife but has no affection for her. To strangers he is not kind. He bites someone.” never scratched or scratched, but hissing and yelling at unfamiliar people, wives frightening babies, not welcoming newborns, hurting wives I argued calmly but eventually acquiesced,” the post’s author explained.
“Sadly my wife and I lost our child a few weeks before our due date. We still don’t have many answers and it’s painful to get in. We mourned. It’s been inconsolable for weeks and I still can’t think about it without feeling utter pain and loss.A month later we were back to some degree of normalcy. I started thinking about it.”
The hiring process takes a long time. So the redditor wanted to bring the pet back home during that period. “I wanted to meet him. He has been my best friend for many years and a loyal companion throughout my adulthood.” This led the OP to seek advice from the AITA community. I wasn’t sure if I was wrong about wanting the cat back home.
The AITA subreddit was very supportive of the OP and tried to be as sensitive as possible about the couple’s situation. It suggests that more time is needed to understand why.
Everyone grieves differently. And you can’t expect everyone to grieve at the same pace.This is what psychotherapist Silva Neves explained to Bored Panda during a previous interview.
“Some people grieve by crying a lot, others by being practical. There is no time limit Grief usually diminishes over time, meaning that people become less upset over time, but some people never “recover” from grief. Especially those who have lost someone very important to them. Most people learn to live with grief and sorrow. Important dates such as anniversaries can always be painful,” he said.
“Although there is some common knowledge about grief, such as the ‘stages of grief’, many people do not follow the ‘stages’ of grief because grief is complex and unpredictable. The best way to support someone is to sit with them and listen,” the psychotherapist noted.
“It’s also important not to say, ‘I know how you feel,’ because grief is so unique and no one can know how someone else’s grief will feel. We get a lot of support with grief at the beginning of a loss, but we often stop talking after a while,” an expert previously told Bored Panda.
“People who are grieving usually appreciate friends asking about it, even after a year or two. Don’t be afraid to ask, ‘How are you doing?’ Allow the grieving person to speak. Ask what you need, but don’t assume what you need. Sometimes a grieving person needs a hug, but other times they need to sit in silence. Sometimes you need to be distracted, and sometimes you want to talk about your pain. ”