Man ponders “AITA who brought up my brother’s ‘premature’ birth at Christmas dinner to silence my parents? ”
It is no exaggeration to say that we live in a world, a culture, and a society.
As people move from being members of a communal society to a more individualistic society, the social and cultural norms and expectations placed on them are influential for many who just want to live in peace. It becomes less and more annoying.
And, if anything, asking someone when they’re going to get married or have kids is at least disrespectful. Because you can never know if a couple has fertility problems or has made a conscious choice not to. go away. Shu!
But it still happens, and often leads to conflict in the long run. Much like this r/AITA story of parents continuing to raise their son’s unmarried lifestyle, because Christmas dinner was the last straw. , he had to bring out a big gun.
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As you’ll see in this next article, Christmas dinner seems to have become the new Thanksgiving dinner where people have family drama.
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Reddit user u/SupermarketFair3341 recently shared a story that happened to him during Christmas dinner. He is a nurse practitioner providing primary care for low-risk obstetric cases. His fiancé is also working in medicine and has actually finished his residency.
This bit of context will be important later.
The two have been living together for several years and were in no hurry to get married until recently announcing their marriage in June. A few yearsthe OP’s deeply religious parents confided in marital issues and continued to push their own very sacred agenda.
Fed up with parents imposing religious beliefs on marriage, the man subtly hinted at his hypocrisy of married life.
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After his parents’ highly cultured comment that living together outside of marriage is a “sin,” his son snapped and started pointing the finger at them.
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When it came to Christmas dinner, all the children and grandchildren (17 total) were there, and the parents changed the conversation at the table to express their joy by announcing that the OP and his fiancé were getting married soon. .
But instead of actually expressing their joy, they turned it into yet another lecture on how to live a good Christian life. The father emphasized how the three older children got married and moved in together. Have a smooth move, Mom and Dad.
Anyway, the OP’s fiancé found the tone “subtle” and started to get embarrassed. The OP himself has repeated this conversation over and over, each time asking him to stop controlling his life and accept it, but now it was the final straw.
In particular, he emphasized that his brother’s “premature birth” was not really, but simply a conception four months before the marriage.
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So OP turned the tables and mixed it with his own professional wisdom to bring out a little bit of the dirt he had on his parents. handle maternity cases thing? Yeah the gun was loaded.
The OP remembers that shortly after his parents had their first “marriage talk”, Grandma told him about his siblings who were born weighing over 9 pounds and about 23 inches tall. Not the weight of a premature baby in a month, nor the height.that is What is a 1 month old baby like?And OP knew it because he worked in the field.
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Parents weren’t thrilled about it, even though it didn’t advance the topic to any serious degree, and the OP spoke harshly.
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After all, 4 months is the kind of margin of error that parents would have to put off their date to make it sound like they’ve been married 9 months, if not for a fake premature birth. The baby was actually conceived four months before the marriage.
But the OP couldn’t have been more detailed. All he needed was a topic to broach. His parents began changing the topic to “I see a deer in the headlights” on his face.
And once the story hit the internet, people praised the OP for having a good laugh in the comments
I don’t know if anyone else has caught up, but the OP nevertheless got a tough talk from his parents.This was where the conflict peaked. And while his parents were upset over his bit of truth, his fiancé was as happy as ever because his parents seemed to be off topic forever.
Still, getting some perspective from a stranger online was interesting to the OP, and that’s how the story flowed onto Reddit.
Overall, people loved the story, its setting, the payoff, all the jazz. Some joked about how he had to drive his people to treat their burns after being treated.
The story itself received more attention than most other r/AITA stories, garnering around 50,000 upvotes, an 89% upvote, and 67 Reddit awards.You can peek at posts in context Here.
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