Host wonders if it’s really petty not to invite friends to holiday party after wedding invitations don’t arrive
Partying is integral to human culture and social life, necessary for a healthy life, just as important as gaining good credit, exercising, and keeping toxic people out of your life. Sure, you can live with or without it, but its benefits are too understatement.
So, Let alone if the other side was actually invited to an equivalent party, it wasn’t invited to the party and in fact that was the whole reason in the first placeis definitely a mouthful of sentences, but it’s also an awkward situation.
And of course, in a recent r/AITA post, Redditors faced such a conundrum.
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Not being invited to a party sucks, but not being invited to a party because of your own party is even worse
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According to the story, the OP hosts an annual Christmas party that tends to be pretty big (Like hundreds of people in large catering). They’ve been doing it for ten years, so you know it’s a serious tradition.
One year OP invited this friend named Tara and her former colleague Tony. In a feel-good twist, the two got along pretty well, and two years later announced their engagement at the next holiday party.
A Redditor recently needed some perspective on the decision not to invite couples who haven’t received their wedding invitations to the party.
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But in a not-so-feel-good way, the OP wasn’t invited to the wedding. I used the party as a platform to announce my engagement. We were rather good friends, so it was frustrating not to be invited.
So OP figured he’d skip inviting the two of them to the annual Christmas party as well. The couple got back to them saying they were very upset that they hadn’t been invited, after all, they considered his OP’s party something special and they weren’t invited. It seemed like a small thing that I hadn’t been invited because I was not invited.
For hundreds of people, a wedding sounds more personal than a Christmas party, but the nuance here is that the couple met at this party, thanks to the OP.
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To make matters worse, two mutual friends were on the couple’s side, explaining that they felt like the OP was punishing them. About 200 people were invited, of which at least 50 were acquaintances of hers, so the OP disagreed with that last part. On top of that, OP’s partner was also an ally of the couple.
All things considered, the OP asks the question Am I an A hole? Community on Reddit. And they decided the OP wasn’t wrong in not inviting his friends over this year.
Overall, people said there was nothing wrong with hosts doing what they did – it’s their party.
The NTA in the comments section justified the OP’s decision by stating, first and foremost, that it was their party, so they decided who would join and who would not. 1 commenter guessed This conflict may have arisen because the OP’s party, which has become a tradition, unwittingly seems like an “official organizer and community event” kind of deal, so it doesn’t feel as personal as the wedding. , weddings are always carefully curated. It will be the guest list.
If anything, most people felt that the couple did not appreciate the OP’s friendship and efforts as much as the opposite. It seems that it was targeted.
People asked for more information in the comments, including whether the couple explained why they didn’t invite the OP to the wedding, how big the party usually is, and whether they were introduced by the OP and other details. Actually OP was very active in the comments.
Speaking of comments, you can read everything in context HereBut don’t forget to leave a comment and play the judging game in the comments section below.