“Am I a jerk for pissing off my brother for pissing off my cousin’s daughter who didn’t change her diaper?”
One good turn is worth another turn. Kindness must be returned with kindness. Well, ideally. But knowing when to reach out to someone or when to say “no” and enforce healthy boundaries can be difficult. Things can get especially emotionally bleak when dealing with relatives you love and care about.
Redditor u/Throwaway22155722 shared a story About the delicate situation they and their daughter are currently in. They are being kicked out by the OP’s brother and his girlfriend who agreed to let them stay after the redditor’s divorce. It happened because of one dirty diaper that wasn’t changed. Dear Pandas, the full story is below. Scroll down to read and share your thoughts in the comments. Do you think someone was wrong here? what did you do
An 18-year-old girl who refused to change her cousin’s diaper developed into a big fight within the family
Image source: Janko Ferlič (not actual photo)
Her parents shared exactly what happened in a viral post on the AITA online community.
Image source: Timur Weber (not actual photo)
Image source: Throwaway 22155722
The author of the post wanted to get the AITA online community’s opinion on who was wrong in this particular case. The OP wasn’t sure if he should have called the brother who pissed off her daughter, which happened because she, 18, didn’t want to change her cousin’s diaper. This escalated into a major debate, and tempers flared on all fronts.
What is the final result? The brother’s girlfriend got involved and he gave the two guests two weeks to pack up and move.
At the time of writing this article, most redditors thought this case was fine. This is a very rare occurrence. Usually in this kind of story there are (more or less) distinct heroes and villains. Not in this case. It seems most people had good reasons for behaving the way they did. Some thought the OP was silly. Others saw nothing wrong. Some believed that absolutely everyone was to blame.
Unfortunately, the end result is in no one’s interest. Especially not the OP and his daughter. Hopefully everyone gets over the incident. Final.
With close family members, it is often best to try to resolve the issue in a calm and sober manner. But in reality, tempers can and do rise. After all, the desire to be understood is a very human desire. It is also very human to believe that our position is a wise one. But at the end of the day, you have to weigh what your goals are. are you rather right? Or do you want to be happy?
It’s usually best to find some kind of middle ground and meet your loved one halfway through. Nothing. It might feel awkward. maybe not. But it’s pretty much the only way to find a good solution for a similar situation. And, frankly, better than the alternative of fragmenting the whole family.
Try to think of things on a macro scale. In 50 years or so, would you like to apologize to each other and find a way to live together? Or are you proud that everyone got into a big argument and everyone fell apart?
Proposed by Very Well Mind See how your discussion usually goes. Try to identify patterns. Then consider how you want the conversation to proceed. Think about the overall tone of the interaction and try to avoid how you would normally react (e.g. being overly defensive, quick to rage, etc.). Then try to steer the whole situation in a more positive, less hostile direction.
on the other hand, Notes on Better Health Channel You can try to find common ground between you. In addition, it is important to actively listen to what the other person has to say. Everyone wants to be heard. But a lot of the time, we’re so busy trying to “win” the conversation and get everyone’s attention to us that we forget it’s an argument, not a soliloquy.
People were divided on this topic.Some people think the poster did nothing wrong
However, other internet users believed the 18-year-old’s parent was responsible for the whole situation.
Some thought that absolutely everyone was to blame for the drama
