A wife set a light trap on her husband to try housework… He pours out his heart online: “I don’t know how I’ll survive the holidays”
Vacations can be very stressful, especially when combined with intense periods at work. It’s fine to vent your troubles to your partner, family, or friends, but you should never allow this to escalate into emotional abuse. Don’t be a verbal punching bag just because life is hard. No one deserves to be offended.
Believe it or not, glitter (yes, that sparkly thing) can be used as a relationship weapon. Unfortunately, what follows isn’t a magical, airy, lighthearted story. And it might make pandas uncomfortable, so fair warning.
Redditor u/errands and housework opened about In a post on r/TrueOffMyChest, he noted that his wife’s temper was “getting worse and worse lately.” He shared how he kept criticizing how she did household chores no matter how well she did them. Things came to a head when he “proved” he wasn’t thorough. His wife’s response was to yell at him for spilling the glitter.
In the OP’s own words, scroll down for the full article. Dear Panda, what advice would you give the author of this post? bored panda I contacted u/errandsandhousework via Reddit. I will update the article as soon as I hear from him.
Glitter may sound like it’s always been fun, but in this particular case it’s completely different.
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The man shared how his wife kept lashing out at him and how she hid glitter under the coffee maker.
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The poster hopes things calm down once the holidays are over and his wife’s stress at work has cleared. It feels like errands and household chores only get worse the closer we get to Christmas. Unsolicited advice isn’t usually something we give, but it feels like they need to chat as soon as possible about what’s going on instead of putting it off for later.
Many redditors were completely appalled by what they read. Some of them pointed out that the OP’s wife literally hid glitter under the coffee maker and set him up to fail. As a whole, the house is not an emotionally healthy atmosphere.
There are several approaches people can take in similar situations. The first, perhaps the most uncomfortable, but also the most mature, is to sit down and have a calm and honest discussion about what is going on. Explain to your partner how you feel when they do certain things. You establish certain boundaries. Physical contact (think hugs and kisses) in case of a big argument can help you make up.
It’s perfectly normal to have boundaries that are flexible the closer you get to someone, but it’s still important to have a mutual understanding of what behavior completely and completely crosses the line. people don’t care. This is the type of behavior that needs to be stopped. straight away.
The second way is to seek professional help. You can process your emotions by going to couples counseling or going to therapy alone. It is important to understand that asking for help does not indicate weakness. Our strength lies in solving problems and taking actionable steps towards a better future for the whole family.
A third option is to consider separation or divorce. You need to check your partner’s track record. How long has your partner been yelling at you, yelling at you, criticizing you for every little thing? Is this a new behavior or a constant recurrence? But is it just the insane stress at work they’re getting (and they just can’t handle it in a healthy way), or are they treating you badly because they’re feeling it? You have to be specific…so they can get around it.
Bored Panda previously wrote about how resentment can build up in a relationship when couples don’t have honest conversations about practical, everyday issues. Without communication and transparency on that front, all you get is constant arguments that can ultimately lead to couple breakups. It is best to No one can read minds. I need to speak.
To put it plainly, household chores should be fairly distributed between both partners. You shouldn’t feel compelled to do anything. Sometimes the balance needs to be re-balanced so that both parties are happy. This may look a little different for each couple. Every relationship has its own circumstances. However, one thing remains the same. Partners need to treat each other with love and respect. And that means no screaming or gaslighting each other with glitter traps.