‘I swear some people get married thinking it’s a fundraiser’: Bride and groom want guests to pay for wedding meals and give gifts in cash
From some amazing wedding photo shoots and romantic memories, the only thing that comes to mind is ‘How is this even possible?
Indeed, weddings seem to awaken people’s deep subconscious and force them to give something much brighter and deeper than the ritual itself to be imprinted in people’s memories. mosquito? 1 ・ “Guestzilla” will order a special dish without telling the bride! two – Newlyweds won’t allow guests to bring boyfriends just to set her up with an old friend! three – Eligible relatives tell bride-to-be to schedule a destination wedding at a time and place that is uncomfortable for them. And there are actually many such examples…
recently a blogger @kellikeylimepieThe video has garnered over 850,000 views and nearly 19.2K likes on TikTok in just a few days. A video that sparked an incredibly lively discussion in the comments. The video raised questions among commenters about what a wedding really is, a happy event for a loving couple, or a huge fundraising opportunity. However, let’s talk about everything in order…
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The author of the video has a wedding invitation and cash gifts are very much appreciated
Image credit: Camille Robinson (not actual photo)
So the creator of the video somehow received an invitation to the wedding of a friend of her own, presumably. I directly stated in the invitation that I would like the guest to give me the money immediately.
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The same invitation obliges guests to pay for their own meals, which really angers the author
Of course, many future spouses do this. Because new families often need money to arrange their lives. Also, guests cannot always guess what the newlyweds wish for, so they often receive gifts that are completely different from what they would like or are completely unnecessary. Yes, money is incomparably more convenient, and indeed it was for this purpose that mankind invented it thousands of years ago. But the most beautiful part of this invitation was on the other side.
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It was printed in a beautiful artistic font for guests to remember – everyone has an obligation to pay for their meal. “Okay, you blew all the $$$ on the wedding,” she sarcastically remarks.
In fact, according to various surveys and studies, weddings today are very expensive.
But the facts relentlessly argue that weddings are going to be incredibly expensive in late 2022, for both newlyweds and guests. Research by Brides.comwhile the average cost of a wedding and party is about $12,000, the average guest is spending about $3,000 per wedding this year, Affirm Consumption expenditure report Reveal.
The price increase has also been confirmed by many experts. “We’re up 15% from pre-pandemic pricing, and I don’t think this will go away any time soon.” In an interview with Carats&Cake“In other words, a $10,000 flower in 2019 will be $15,000 for a 2022 wedding.”
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In some countries there is actually a tradition of wedding guests paying themselves
It is interesting that in some countries the idea of having guests to pay for their own food at a wedding reception is quite common and traditional. For example, this is how it is done in Israel. “To be honest, I was first confronted with the concept of a ‘must have amount’ as a wedding gift here in Israel. In the nearly 200 weddings I’ve done in Ukraine, Moldova and Ibiza, Spain, I’ve never heard of such a thing,” says Denis Tsykanovsky. Wedding officiant from Tel Aviv, Israelwith who bored panda I reached out for comment on this story.
“Here, the so-called ‘manA’ (derived from the Hebrew word for ‘cooking’) – the amount of food and drink checks per guest – is a common and accepted practice in society. When you go to , you just have to have a fixed cash bonus in your piggy bank for the newlyweds, in addition to the amount (which is often also listed on the wedding invitation). It already depends on your personal attitude towards them.
“Some Israelis include the cost of attending an upcoming relative’s wedding in their annual household budget, and newlyweds take out special loans for the wedding. This is a serious flow of funds.Israel is a high-tech country, so I wouldn’t be surprised if there is a special mobile application that facilitates the transfer of money specifically for wedding gifts,” said Denis Tsykanovsky.
The video sparked a debate in the comments, but most agreed it was pretty weird and inappropriate to make guests pay for themselves.
Therefore, there is nothing strange in the desire of newlyweds to return at least part of the money spent on gifts from guests. However, most people in the comments to the original video have heard about the fact that guests pay for food themselves for the first time in their lives. If you can’t afford it, don’t invite too many people or just have a wedding ceremony with your immediate family.
Most commentators perfectly understand the desire of newlyweds to receive gifts in cash. “Gifts pay for your meal,” is her one of the most witty commenter jokes. Well, people generally prefer to stay home for free – especially if it turns out that bars are also paid…
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And now, in good faith, I encourage you to comment below this post to discuss how it is acceptable today to require guests to pay for their own meals. If you’ve ever been through a similar situation at someone’s (or, who knows, actually, your own…) wedding, I’d love to hear your own beautiful story!