Family drama is always difficult because breaking ties can feel impossible or even morally wrong. Worse yet, you may find yourself caught in the middle of a family conflict that forces you to choose one side or the other. Also, fighting family members can be emotionally draining and confusing, even when you can clearly see which party is at fault.
mother asked the internet If she had the right to tell her sister that she was no longer welcome in her home after getting into a heated argument with her teenage son. The dispute arose after the OP’s sister and two daughters came to visit and her son was asked to babysit the girl.
A parent’s natural instinct is to protect their children, but what happens when this feeling collides with the need to protect siblings?
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A mother described a time when her sister visited with her children and the effect it had on her son
One day, she came home to find it empty except for two young girls.
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OP gave some additional thoughts on why her sister said what she did
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Family conflicts can arise for many reasons and are always very painful
Family estrangement, which tends to describe situations that are a little more dramatic than the OP’s story, is actually quite lack of study When it comes to the field of family psychology. In short, it’s a difficult topic to cover because most people don’t want to talk about it, much less with researchers. But this in itself points to the fact that conflict within the family is a test subject. The evidence we have is mostly statistical.For example, in the United States, about 17% of young adults have explained Being estranged from at least one close relative.
Most often, this conflict occurs between fathers and children, but sometimes children are collateral damage during marital conflicts. Sibling estrangement is also less well-studied.Nevertheless, in both cases the most common cause is include Abuse, harmful behavior, disagreements about politics or religion. Distancing yourself from abuse is always the right move, but estrangement and severing contact can be difficult as it can make any kind of reconciliation and closure impossible.
Conflicts can happen, so you need to know how to care for your relationship and yourself after the fact.
Some psychologists take a different view that unfortunately conflict is part of life and the real problem of estrangement is the difficulties we have. repair relationship. Usually, when you have a conflict with a person, there is no reason to mend the relationship. From road rage to hostile co-workers, it’s often easier and more productive to go through your life without others. Family makes it more difficult. As such, they often do not have the experience of reconciling with others even when they need to.
So, if you need or want to reconcile, here are some steps that experts recommend. And realize that it may be difficult for the other party to do so. Sometimes people imply that they are open to the idea, hide it somehow. After all, we humans have always been stubborn and arrogant. Ultimately, if the conflict was mutual, a sincere expression of remorse goes a long way. However, if you are a victim and still want to reconcile, do not be shy about standing your ground and demanding an apology.
Commentator agreed the sister’s story was bizarre and she was right to stand by her son
