“[Am I The Jerk] Can you move my trans sister into my “room” during the camping vacation? ”

Older generations, as people who have lived longer, often think that they know everything or almost everything about this life based solely on their own everyday experiences. is just one of It’s the so-called availability heuristic. What does this mean? For example, the fact that when evaluating a phenomenon, people tend to rely on their own information about the phenomenon – even if it is poorly structured and completely irrelevant.

For example, if you ask which state in the United States has the most tornadoes, many people will recall the Wizard of Oz and answer Kansas, but statistics show that Texas has the most tornadoes. When people independently evaluate others, they often incorrectly attribute certain characteristics to that person simply based on their own inferences. In many areas such as parenting, these generalizations can sometimes serve no purpose, especially in family conflicts.

for example, this particular situation, was explained in the AITA Reddit community a few years ago. The original post has about 3.3K upvotes and over 300 different comments, most of which express a great deal of support for the poster.

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The author is a teen and has a trans sister and a cis brother

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So the incident of the story described happened in 2019. The author of the post was 16 years old at the time, and her 14-year-old transgender sister and 15-year-old brother went camping with their parents. one week. Along with them, according to the original poster, also went with her uncle and aunt, and her two sons, aged 13 and 15. As stated in the OP notes, everyone except my sister is Sith.

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A few years ago the author and his family went camping with relatives

As for accommodation in tents, the adults decided to occupy the OP’s parents’ tent, and the children went to the aunt and uncle’s large tent. This large tent was divided into her two parts, a “boy’s room” and a “girl’s room”, with the tent owner allowing the OP to sleep in one room and all the other children to sleep in the other. I was planning on sleeping in a room with And of course, my uncle and aunt completely refused to pay attention to the fact that the OP’s sister was transgender.

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At the same time, as the OP says, she and her sister are fine with not having privacy from each other, especially since she’s been identified as a girl for quite some time. Simply decided it shouldn’t matter to them and it should be exactly what they ordered.

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My aunt and uncle told the author that he should have a “girl’s room” in a big tent and his sister should stay in the “boy’s room.”

The OP and her sister went to their parents to ask for help, but they chose to distance themselves from the conflict, stating something along the lines of “their tent, their rules”. The younger generation decided to take matters into their own hands. The original poster just dragged her sister’s airbed into half of the tent and the boys all promised their elders not to say anything about it, the main thing is that the OP’s sister I felt comfortable.

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The author’s parents refused to support them, so the author dragged his older sister’s airbed behind the adults.

So a week went by, and on the last day, the teens tried to quickly put the tent away so that the adults wouldn’t notice anything. During one conversation, one of OP’s cousins ​​accidentally told her parents, “Okay, girls had space, we had space.” Then came the real scandal, with both of the OP’s cousins ​​being stranded for a week for “lying to their parents.”

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Finally, the author’s parents realized their decision to not take sides with their children was wrong.

Secondly, when it comes to discussing this story in OP’s family, her parents, especially after the author of the post and her siblings outright supportive of her transgender sister, are in many ways uninterested in this conflict. “My parents are trying to provide more support. poster summarizes.

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As for the original poster’s cousin, she’s been having a lot of trouble with her parents lately for other reasons as well. I decided to avoid contact with my aunt. Perhaps this is really the best choice in this situation…

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Author’s Aunt and Uncle Had Their Own Prejudices, Experts Say

“The poster’s aunt and uncle appear to have had their own prejudices prioritizing their relationship with their children.” Psychologist and Certified NLP Specialist,Who bored panda I have reached out to for comment on this situation. “The author’s parents’ unwillingness to support them was also not the best decision. Apparently, adults believed that a child’s mental comfort wasn’t worth the supposedly ruined trip.” , simply did not want to get involved in the conflict.”

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“However, after talking with the children, I can’t help but be happy that moms and dads have decided to support them more. After all, this is still important for children, regardless of age, ”said Irina Matveeva.

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People in the comments were very supportive of the author and praised her for being very supportive of her sister.

The majority of comments favored the author of the post, noting that children in this situation are more emotionally mature than adults. “You were a good sister and stood up for where she felt comfortable,” one commenter wrote.

Some commenters have pointed out that this situation actually says a lot about the attitude of the OP’s aunts and uncles to trans issues. don’t really care what clothes they’re wearing, but it’s still pretty “genital-focused”. Because of this, I felt more comfortable that my room was only for boys.

Anyway, as people have aptly wondered in the comments, “if a family of five teens can come to an agreement on how to divide them into two rooms and everyone is happy with it? ,why would any of the adults need to have two rooms, what do you say about it?According to the commenter, this is just an example of adult terrible thinking, but the OP says it’s for sibling comfort You did a great job getting out of the way.

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