Mother banned daughter’s only friend from home after making awkward jokes about her weight
Dear Pandas, when you think of your teenage years, what do you remember most? Do you think about how wonderful life was with your friends? How free and fun were you every day? is it? Or are you thinking about how socially awkward you’ve been? Small moments when you’ve done something incredibly embarrassing tend to stick with you over the years, in bed, in the shower, Or you can randomly recall them in the boardroom just before the annual job review.
Most people told jokes that didn’t go well or were sarcasm that crossed everyone’s minds. It happens to the best of us. If it hasn’t happened yet, don’t worry. But how many people have been literally banished from other people’s homes because their humor went wrong?
Redditor u/Effective-Weekend-97 asked the AITA online community for their opinion on a sensitive issueShe asked if it was wrong for her daughter’s friends to never come to her house again after joking about her weight at dinner. Yes. Scroll down for full text.
bored panda I reached out to u/Effective-Weekend-97. She will update her article as soon as she hears from her.also contacted comedy writer and single mother Ariane Shereen, He kindly shared topics to avoid at the dinner table and what to do if he accidentally told an offensive joke. Additionally, the comedy expert revealed how to approach situations when a child’s friend crosses social boundaries.
A mother turned to the internet for advice after literally banishing her daughter’s friend for commenting on her weight
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Comedian Ariane Bored Panda tells us what conversation topics you should definitely avoid while having dinner at someone else’s house. “Anything related to weight, size, or overeating should be avoided at all costs. Religion and politics are also best avoided,” she said.
“If you want to joke around people you don’t know, you might stick to puns and dad jokes! Dad jokes may elicit moans, but they won’t offend you.”
On the other hand, if you’ve made a mistake and offended someone (whether intentionally or accidentally), the best thing to do is say “I’m sorry.” If you were the target of a joke, try to get over it.
“Apologize as soon as you tell a joke, and if you’re the ass, try to cover it up (easier said than done!),” says comedy expert Ariane.
Bored Panda also wanted to get Ariane’s perspective on how parents enforce social boundaries with their children’s friends. She said this reminded her of an incident several years ago.
“I am plus size and my daughter and her friend were sitting on a swing with very heavy tires. ,” she told Bored Panda.
“Then a friend of my daughter who was about eight yelled out.
“So they just sat on the swing and I sat on the bench the whole time. I have to show my daughter’s friends that being polite and disrespectful is not the way to get what she wants. did.”
Generally speaking, there are certain sensitive topics to try and avoid at dinner. Enjoy your casserole. You can talk about whatever you want in private with your friends. However, it tends to work only in theory.
But the fact is, people can and do talk about touchy topics all the time. And few do it in a sophisticated and gentle way. Instead of an Ivy League debate club, dozens of renditions of being disturbed, angry, and “Oh come on now, you can’t be serious!”
Yes, conversations can get messy. And you can’t really expect every joke to land. and my mouth (now completely freed from my brain) is unintentionally saying something utterly rude and stupid. On top of that, someone might interpret your comedy in a way you didn’t intend it to. We must also not forget the very simple fact that children sometimes say silly things.
Most redditors thought the author of AITA’s post went a bit too far and shouldn’t have banished his teenage daughter’s friend. Remember, it was a joke. And that was the OP’s friend’s way of complimenting her husband’s cooking. Most of us have heard bad jokes with little impact, right?
Rather than wait for an apology from the 14-year-old boy, internet users urged the author of this post to ignore the incident. Others shared advice on how their mothers could have handled the situation on the fly at the dinner table. Instead of being a bigger person (no pun intended at all), she said she should put her ego aside.
Someone’s weight is certainly a sensitive topic. And no one wants to be blacklisted forever for making (or perceived as) offensive comments. The antidote to most of these situations is open and honest communication followed by setting boundaries. That includes sitting down with that person and having a quick chat about how their words made you feel. Naturally, this works best “in the moment” rather than months later.
Another solution going forward is to simply… let go. Forget what happened. Accept that you’ll be happier if you forget your grudges. We already wrote about Bored Panda. Holding destructive angerBoth your body and mind suffer as a result. more likely to become severe. Letting go is much more difficult, but infinitely more mature.