A new mom who sent a photo of her daughter at her sister’s request was told not to do it after she had a miscarriage four years ago
Loving relatives and other close people means especially respecting their feelings and, if possible, trying not to hurt them. Unfortunately, we do not know how to read other people’s thoughts, nor can we predict how our actions will affect others. was easily avoided.
Like this story posted AITA Reddit community by user u/Book-worm1991, for example. It’s been several years since the first publication, and I hope all is well with the author’s family.
The author’s sister had a miscarriage four years ago and after receiving treatment decided to remain childless.
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The author did his best to support his sister in this difficult situation.so was my mother
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After sending ultrasound pictures of his daughter to a relative, the author was requested by his sister to stop sending these images
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When the author’s daughter was nine months old, they visited her relatives, and the aunt held the baby politely, but later became upset.
According to the original poster (OP), it all started four years before the described event, when her sister had a miscarriage without realizing she was pregnant. Even though the author of the post lives hundreds of kilometers away, in order to bring her loved one out of a difficult state of mind, she did everything she could to support her in this grief and share her joyful emotions. I tried to tell
Anyway, the OP’s sister underwent treatment, after which she decided she didn’t want to have any more children. Moreover, after some time, when the woman found out about her pregnancy, she tried to present this information to her sister as tactfully as possible so as not to hurt her feelings.
As the original poster recalls, the sisters received the news with visible joy, saying they would be the best aunties ever. and was told her body was at risk of miscarriage. But this time everything worked out.A week later, doctors told her pregnant mother that everything was going well with her child.To celebrate, she asked all her relatives I sent an image to This made her sister very upset and asked her mother not to send the photos to the OP.
no sooner said than done. OP remained calm for the rest of her pregnancy, but when the girl turned 9 months old, she and her husband went to visit relatives and even her sister. But this time the new mom’s worries turned out to be unnecessary. The woman was delighted with her niece, with her joy she held her in her arms and even posed for her joint photo.
A short time later, the sisters texted the original poster, requesting that they send the very photo of them holding their baby in their arms. The poster did. After a while, her mother called and said that when her sister saw her photo, she suddenly burst into tears and was so upset that she acted very indiscreetly. . Moreover, it got even worse after a conversation with her sister. In the end, she said she asked her mother to call the OP on purpose, and she even blamed her because she felt her OP was “rubbing her happiness on her face.” Did.
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“After a miscarriage, some people get upset when they see a pregnant woman and a baby. British Abortion Society state. “Maybe we can send them a card or a text to see how they’re feeling before the visit. As you can see, the OP’s sister has been very supportive of her since the tragic moment in her life.” Even after four years, I was well aware of the emotions my sister might experience after the visit.
“In general, the actions of the author of this story are her only credit. was there.” Psychologist and Certified NLP Specialistwith who bored panda I got in touch with you in the comments. “Of course, it was a bit of a mistake to send her that ultrasound, but after the woman was shocked and reassured by her doctor, few people now accuse her of being inconsistent. plug.”
“In any event, this woman’s sister and her mother still seem to be unable to recover from this tragic moment in their lives, so they both sought more medical attention in order to ultimately recover. It would be worth advising you to let go.This is probably the best solution to prevent possible unpleasant situations in the future, especially now that we have a granddaughter and a niece, ”Irina believes.
People in the comments generally agree with the experts, the situation looks like the sister’s mother is still reliving the story poignantly, and it is her reaction that influences the OP’s sister’s behavior. “Honestly, it sounds like you have a problem with your mom, not your sister?” wrote one commenter. Either way, most people are convinced the OP has nothing to blame herself for and that her sister really “will benefit from several therapy sessions to reconcile with her loss.” is needed”.
Meanwhile, not all relatives in such difficult situations behave decently like the heroines of our story. for example, This woman’s sister thought she had nothing to do but seduce her husband. This story was made as sad as it could be while she lost her baby. If you have anything to say about this story, feel free to leave a comment.
People in the comments believe the author’s sister needs to undergo some new therapy sessions to finally let go of this situation
