There are a lot of jokes about how “awful” mothers-in-law are. Unfortunately, some of them are much worse in real life than in fiction. I don’t get along with MIL. But how many have had to deal with in-laws actively trying to sabotage their wedding day?
Redditor u/bridetobe-ta turned to the AITA online community for their adviceThe bride wondered if she was wrong in not inviting MIL out of the wedding after learning that she had tried to remove her dress. Please read the full text. bored panda contacted u/bridetobe-ta via Reddit. We will update the article as soon as we receive a reply.
Organizing your wedding is stressful enough on its own.On top of that, relatives don’t need to put any more pressure on
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A bride-to-be shared how her mother-in-law reacted to her wedding dress and what she did next
MIL quickly learned that her actions had very direct consequences.
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It’s hard to tell if MIL thought she had “good intentions” or simply resented the bride.
My mother-in-law is often scolded, but not all of them are bad. Also, not everyone is a saint. We are human beings just like you and us. So they are imperfect just like us. They sometimes make mistakes, act justly, act irrationally, and hold grudges against others for illogical reasons.
The mature thing to do in a situation like this is to sit down and talk about things. Having to deal with constant tension and criticism is not a way to live.
As previously covered by Bored Panda, the problem is that some people (whether they’re step-parents or someone else) have. too much of presence in your relationship. They try to get too involved in the couple’s daily life and this can create a lot of stress.
Some people may do this because they have really good intentions and only want the best. may be It’s hard to tell what a person’s true intentions are (whether they want to help others or to spew them out) without personally knowing them.
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Setting and Enforcing Healthy Boundaries is Essential
It’s up to couples to set healthy boundaries with family, friends, and acquaintances. Those who constantly ignore these boundaries need to learn that this does not work. You need to draw a line in the sand and explain in a friendly and firm way that what they are doing is making you uncomfortable and should stop. .
Otherwise, you should know that there will be consequences. Trying to ruin the bride’s dress and not being invited to the wedding is an example of this.
People who care about their partner will do their best to respect their in-laws as well. However, it is important to understand that this respect should only be extended to the extent appropriate to the relationship. If your partner is in a very close relationship, you may be expected to make more effort to get to know them. They shouldn’t be intimate.
Likewise, each person should make an effort to prevent their parents from playing an overly active role in their relationship and marriage if they are bothering their partner severely.
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There are plenty of red flags that your in-laws may be toxic
According to psychotherapist Susan Forward, PhD, signs your in-laws may be toxic include one-upping everything you say, ignoring your feelings, and being overly self-involved. , is incredibly invasive to your marriage, and more. “Toxic Stepparents” They are likely to be gossipy, overly critical, feel inferior, hold grudges, like to stir up drama, and generally have a negative attitude.
Steps to deal with a bad mother-in-law or father-in-law include emotionally detaching yourself in any situation, avoiding judgment of yourself harshly, and expressing unreality about your relationship. It involves letting go of expectations. .
Additionally, you can ask your partner to step in and enforce some boundaries. If that doesn’t work, taking some space and spending time away from your in-laws is a great way to reset things. Remember you and your partner are a team!and no one, never nobody You have to tinker with the bride’s wedding dress.
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