Man accuses girlfriend of cheating on him by refusing to pay rent, Internet deems him wrong
People in love tend to see the world through pink glasses. Still, there are often financial issues involved in balancing colors.
Editor u/No_Recognition7065 recently opened “Aita” community Regarding my disagreement with my boyfriend about splitting the cost of living. After her job change, she got a raise, which prompted him to seek another financial arrangement between them, she refused his request and their story was shared by her fellow redditor was divided into camps.
Financial arrangements, such as sharing living expenses, are common hurdles that couples must overcome in building a relationship.
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This woman refused to split the shared expenses the way her boyfriend wanted them. Their story sparked a discussion in an online group
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Even if accommodation has already been paid for, it is important to know the arrangements for paying the rent
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This story is just one of many examples showing how finances can be a headache when in a relationship. nearly one-fifth (19%) of Americans admit to disagreeing with their partner at least once a month. Financial problems often lead to uncomfortable moments, but it is important to resolve them for the couple’s future. Especially if they live under the same roof.
In 2019, unmarried couples living together made up 7% of the US adult population. According to the Pew Research Centerthe majority of people today see nothing wrong with unmarried couples sharing a home. , because it is more convenient) for many who choose to do so.
Whether it’s love or convenience that spurs the decision to move in together, often one party already has lodging arranged for them. In such cases it may make sense for others to live with them.
Members of the Reddit community had mixed opinions when it came to this issue in the OP’s story. Statistics show that if you own property, it’s fairly common to ask your significant other to pay the rent. 2019 survey As many as 51% were shown to demand rent from their partners in such situations.
Having a joint bank account can reduce the burden of joint costs, but it only works if both partners have discussed everything beforehand
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Whether or not to do so is a matter of mutual agreement, but rent isn’t the only thing couples have to worry about. You should also cover food, utilities, and other daily expenses. As such, some people in committed relationships decide to open joint bank accounts once they become members of the same household.
It may be a convenient option, but 2022 Survey Results Show Less than half of US couples (43% to be exact) want to have a bank account only with their partner. 34% prefer a combination of both joint and individual. The remaining 23% would like to be completely financially independent in this regard.
Having a joint bank account allows both parties to add a predetermined amount and use it to pay joint expenses. By introducing such routines, fights over financial matters can be minimized. However, it works well only if all relevant issues are thoroughly discussed and both parties agree on a specific plan.
The amount each person should set aside for the account and whether it should be the same for both parties are the two most important points to discuss. Therefore, it is important for couples to decide whether to split the costs evenly. Communication is key to reaching consensus. Talking about finances may not be fun, but it helps ensure that all expenses are paid and no one bears all the financial burden themselves.
Talking about financial issues may not be fun, but it often makes relationships stronger in the end
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According to Dr. James Langavier, professor of psychiatry/behavioral sciences and emergency medicine at the University of Texas Health Science Center in Houston, it’s impossible to avoid disagreements when it comes to relationship finances. However, such situations may ultimately succeed or fail. “No matter how you look at it, two things are clear. At some point, partners will have conflicts over money, and the ability to safely navigate those conflicts will determine the health and longevity of that relationship. ‘ he explained. psychology today.
Dealing with money can mean more than meeting certain needs financially. In that connection, it can also be a way to tilt the balance scale of power dynamics.in another work psychology todaylicensed couples and family therapist, Dr. Assael Romanelli, explains how income differences affect the balance of money and power between partners, and how important it is to address this topic. bottom.
He also provided three tips for starting a conversation about it. This includes knowing your worth, engaging in healthy discussions, and assessing how changing the allocation of money might affect your relationship. In the OP’s story, the sudden change in her income triggered a change in their financial arrangements. Either way, there are people on both sides who stand by their views, and they didn’t hesitate to voice their opinions in the comments.