We all know that the inside of a person really matters. But even now, it still amazes us how adults can be mean to each other just because of someone’s appearance. Especially when it comes to someone’s weight. Luckily, there are some wonderful people who help restore the shattered self-esteem of others.
Shared by Redditor u/quinthfae touching story Learn how to ask a close friend to be one of your bridesmaids in the r/TrueOffMyChest online community. The bridesmaids’ reaction to the news was absolutely heartbreaking. You can find the full story in the redditor’s own words below.
bored panda contact the author to Diana, u/quinthfaeand she kindly answered our questions and shared her thoughts on body positivity, compassion, and coping with the stress of organizing a wedding. Please read
The reality is that some people treat you with dignity, while others shy away from you just because of your appearance.
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A bride-to-be friend asked her friend to be her bridesmaid, but she didn’t expect the reaction she got.
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“My childhood bridesmaid friend only knew her as a ‘fat girl’ and I think she was treated like an outcast and kicked out of the picture.”
I wanted to hear the poster’s opinion on why some adults are so cruel when it comes to the weight and appearance of others. “From my own experience alone, in small communities (such as where my friends are from) there are fewer opportunities to meet different people, and differences in appearance are seen as personal failures rather than just personal shortcomings. I think it’s easier to grasp. It’s part of the naturally changing world we live in,” said the redditor. u/quinthfae I shared her thoughts with Bored Panda.
“That doesn’t mean people in the big community can’t be bullies—they certainly are—but in this case, my bridesmaid’s childhood friend only knew her as a ‘fat girl.’ I was banished and kicked out of the picture.
On the other hand, we were interested in OP’s view of helping people become more compassionate, respectful, and tolerant. She noted that social media has “done a great job” in advancing her positivity movement. Celebrities, stars and public figures can make a huge impact by sharing their thoughts and photos on the internet.
“Despite the hatred, celebrities who proudly flaunt their looks present themselves as positive representations because they have helped many people see beauty in all shapes, sizes and colors. I appreciate a lot of body positivity in brave people.I think the plus size store would have been nice too!My friend asked me to wear fun themed dresses that she would never have worn as a child. became.”
Many of us know how stressful wedding preparations really can be. I was interested in hearing what you say.
“The advice I give other couples getting married is something I always try to give myself, but in the end what matters is who shows up! Be there to celebrate your marriage with all your heart.” As long as you’re surrounded by your loved ones, the rest is just the details of the party,” she said.
“It’s okay if you don’t reach the ‘perfect’ aesthetic you dreamed of. A wedding may only be one day for her, but that day is the beginning of your eternity. You and your future spouse will find perfection together no matter what happens.
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The halo effect is something everyone should know
The post’s author, u/quinthfae, explained that this was the first time a close friend of hers had been asked to be a bridesmaid, even though she had helped out at many other weddings. “I was never pretty enough to be a bridesmaid,” the woman said, and it was absolutely heartbreaking to hear.
The OP said he felt sad and outraged at the way bridesmaids had been treated over the years and years in the past. , that she cares about her heart, and that she did enough to deserve to be by my side at my wedding, whether she hosted it in her backyard or not. I reassured her repeatedly,” the redditor shared, adding that she deserves to have better friends.
The sad reality is that many people only pay attention to superficial appearances.that’s what we call halo effectand that happens when a positive first impression of someone influences how you treat them later.
In other words, a person who is conventionally “pretty” can get more done than someone who may not fit in with what society considers “beautiful.” People who are slightly overweight are pushed aside and their positive qualities are ignored.Unfairly, this is a common cognitive bias.
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Adults make fun of their weight and appearance for a variety of reasons, but that’s no excuse for being mean.
plus size people often teased he joked. Some people do this because they are trying to make others laugh and simply don’t know how their sarcasm affects others. You may want to make yourself feel better by belittling. Broadly speaking, we shouldn’t make fun of people for not being able to change about themselves quickly. It’s immature and mean, but we’re all better than that.But what is fat and body shame can happen anywhere.
Some people find the sight of a larger body uncomfortable, but there are few easy answers to how to change people’s perceptions on a societal level. It is imperative that everyone strives to have more empathy and see things from the perspective of others. Emotional maturity begins with considering the impact your actions have on those around you.
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