A bride who didn’t want to spend her fiancée’s birthday at her daughter’s wedding told her father, “Take the kid you’re dating and get out.”
Wedding day is one of the most important moments in everyone’s life. It’s often considered one of the most important stages of life, much like entering college or giving birth. With so many things to attend and manage at a wedding, conflicts can arise during a wedding. One thing to watch out for is guest satisfaction. If they have a grievance, they are sure to make it clear.
Nonetheless, these things can be out of your control and your guests will be grumpy no matter what. Reddit user u/Own-Credit7794 threatens to kick father out of wedding I asked if he was an idiot.
Below, you’ll also find an interview with Elizabeth “Beth” Kramer (she), a wedding planner in Portland, Oregon. She provided insight into how conflicts can arise during a wedding and how to navigate them.
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At any event, especially a wedding attended by close friends and family, it’s hard enough to make sure everyone is happy.
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A Reddit user wanted to know if he hated telling his father to leave the wedding if he prioritized his fiancée over the ceremony.
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At the ceremony, which was scheduled for the same day as her fiancée’s birthday, her father acted like a wedding and caused trouble.
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The action continued all the way as the father and poster grandma tried to appease the father’s fiancée
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The fiancé started complaining about the cake during the reception, but the bride couldn’t stand it anymore and angrily suggested that the father and his girlfriend leave.
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Her father was upset and stayed that way all night, but the poster doesn’t know if she overreacted.
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Bride notes in comments that her father apologized, but didn’t understand why she was mad
The original poster (OP) begins the story by explaining the situation. Her dad has been dating his girlfriend for about two years and recently got engaged.OP goes on to explain that his relationship with his girlfriend Marissa is minimal and she describes her as not a very pleasant person. I’m here.
Due to this lack of contact, OP’s wedding was scheduled for the same day as Marissa’s birthday. This stressed her father out and he said Marissa had a lot of trauma and felt guilty spending her birthday at the OP’s wedding. Without saying it, the OP thought they could figure it out.
When it came time for the wedding, Marissa didn’t show much emotion, but OP’s dad was constantly apologizing to her. When her father came to see his daughter in the bridal room, he again focused on Marissa, who he took with him, asked if she was okay, and even apologized. She was sitting on her father’s lap and he opened her gift today and said she could get a new one on the day they celebrated, but she refused on a whim. Additionally, OP’s grandmother also tried to give Marissa a gift, but the poster says her father was “very annoying.”
The straw that broke the camel’s back was Marissa complaining that she didn’t like chocolate cake, and her father apologized to her again and suggested they go out after the ceremony. Screaming, cursing him to take his girlfriend and leave, even calling her a child. Her father was taken aback, but her grandmother began berating her for being rude to her father for paying for her wedding. The OP gave him an ultimatum: stop talking about Marissa’s birthday or leave the ceremony.
In the end, her father and fiancée remained, but he remained upset for the rest of the night. I heard her joking about how she should tear up. She said she was justifiably upset because she was acting like the day was inconvenient.
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Planning a wedding can be a test of the venue, food, and taking care of important guests. Who should come, who should receive a plus one, perhaps someone should be barred from the ritual. The difficult question is whether to invite the parent’s new partner.
Ann Articles about brides It suggests that you should ask each guest a few questions to see if they should receive an invitation to the wedding.
- Have I met this person before?
- Did I attend their wedding?
- When was the last time you saw them?
- Do you spend holidays and birthdays together?
- Are they a positive influence in my life?
Considering the questions on this list, Marissa in the OP’s story probably wouldn’t have been cut. He says he didn’t know it was his birthday when he was planning the wedding.
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bored panda We reached out to Elizabeth “Beth” Kramer, a Portland-based wedding planner with seven years of experience, for advice on this topic. “We’ve learned that sometimes weddings can bring out the worst in people. It makes sense because weddings are challenging in many ways: emotionally, financially, socially. “Often, the stress of the ceremony manifests itself as a kind of hyper-focus on the details to regain a sense of control.” It reminds me of one guest who must have been there,” says Beth.
Elisabeth calls this behavior a “solar flare”. This is because it is often an intense emotional release that has no specific direction or destination. So it hits the closest person who is so dear to us.
An experienced wedding planner shares some suggestions for dealing with these situations. If you are the one getting married, you should remember why you are having a wedding. She states that the first exercise in her book and website is the reason or wedding mission statement. It can be used to guide the drama that takes place at any event, especially an emotional and expensive event like a wedding.
If you are a guest before you rush to help the bride and groom, ask yourself what would be most helpful to the people getting married. You may think you know what is best for them, but you must remember that they are adults who know themselves best. If you trust them, you should trust them enough to tell you what it takes to weather the storm.
Elizabeth is the author “Modern Etiquette Wedding Planner” co-founder with altaris a space for wedding vendors who want to change the wedding industry.Learn more about her work website.
This post has received almost 10k upvotes and 1.9k comments since it was posted 3 months ago. The community decided the poster wasn’t a jerk, and most commenters questioned Marissa’s age and maturity. Judged not to be a jerk, but the community said it was excessive to cause a scene or curse at her father.
Commenters seem to agree that the OP is more informed about Marissa’s behavior and that the OP isn’t a jerk
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