‘I think it’s tough for some people’: Woman explains how she saved her relationship by treating her boyfriend like an underperforming employee
When people say relationships are work, it generally means that both sides need to put in effort in order for them to be successful, that they don’t take each other for granted, and so on. After all, your partner or spouse isn’t the parent (or child) you need to look after or be in constant control of.
But this couple decided to take the work side of their relationship very seriously. tick tock, a woman details how she used management techniques when she and her boyfriend had a hard time. helped him concentrate. And perhaps surprisingly, it worked out and they’re still together.
One thing most people don’t expect from their relationship is a weekly performance review
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“I’m going to share with you guys how I PIPed my boyfriend in real life.”
“For those of you who aren’t tech savvy, PIP stands for Performance Improvement Plan, and it’s something you wear when you’re about to get fired. And in the end, even though we had a lot of love for each other, we felt like we weren’t compatible. Before you come to me, I know it’s a bit harsh for some of you, but he’s an engineer and you can communicate with him without using anything he’s already involved with. can be really hard to get.
This woman had a troubled relationship with her boyfriend and implemented a trial period and weekly meetings to help their relationship.
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“So we shared notes outlining the daily and weekly tasks he needed to do and the set of things he had to work on. And it worked really well.”
“Even now, for the household chores he is responsible for, I use the only Kanban board that is stuck and working. He’ll do it, but if I tell him, he’ll forget it.We also have a weekly retrospective, and we check in with each other every weekend to see how we’re doing. This is my favourite.”
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@nadeenhui We started living together very early in our relationship, so we saw each other’s habits and lifestyles very early on. To be honest, I think it worked better this way because it allowed me to decide whether to actually work on these lifestyle habits together or break up. It wasn’t much and we were still friends. These lifestyle changes were for the better, so why not? I had to learn to be more receptive and easy-going. #relationship advice #softwareengineerlife #life in tech #Girls Intec ♬ Original Sound – nadeen