Humans are complex creatures. Some are like open books, but others can’t figure out their character for months, if not years.
When it comes to people who are narrow-minded, rude, and selfish, they’re usually all pretty noticeable at first glance, but back to the whole “hidden traits” slur, some do an excellent job of hiding their jerky selves. So wouldn’t it be great to know the subtle signs that help you identify the types of people that shouldn’t be a part of your life?
In the middle of the grocery store, in the middle of the rice aisle, or in an equally warm place, they suddenly decide they don’t need the frozen/chilled goods in their cart, and instead of putting them back where they found them, they put them on the shelf. choose to leave it in the Nothing prevents us from putting it back in the fridge or freezer, but we actively choose to leave fish, raw meat, milk/ice cream, or anything else outside to spoil.
waiter test. A person who is nice to you but not to the waiter is not a nice person. This also applies to cashiers, counter helpers, hotel clerks, custodians, security guards, and anyone in a similar position.
However, don’t apply the waiter test the first time you meet someone. is taking
Never say sorry. we are people we make mistakes. Also, our words and actions can hurt other people’s feelings, even if we don’t intend to. I’m sorry but please move on. No big deal. But if someone refuses to do so, that’s a red flag for me.
When they promote toxic positivity. Like those who say, “What are you depressed for? You are alive, you can see the earth with your own eyes.” When you actually need professional help. One of my exes was like this. Every time I told him I might need to visit a therapist, he dismissed me. He told me that being born and living is enough reason not to be depressed. After our breakup, I heard him before and still advertise that therapy doesn’t help.Damn, I took antidepressants and got a lot better
When they’re talking behind everyone’s backs but their faces have what I like to call a gooey sweet personality.
I’m a male and anyone who pressures me to remove the condom sucks. They have no respect for you, are lightweight and creepy. Boys and girls, don’t let anyone tell you what’s comfortable and what isn’t. Yes, it’s worse when you’re wearing a condom, but when rules are rules.
when they make everything about them.
A former best friend and I worked together and played carpool. I became redundant and very upset. Seeking her comfort, I called to tell her the news. Then she said:
I wish I had walked then… It would have been a lot less stressful.
EDIT: Guys, she wasn’t neurodiverse, just a*****e. I suffer from ADHD from head to toe, so I understand that your brain may react a little differently.
We have been friends for seven years and it took me a long time to realize that the only person she cared about was herself. I used to read my diary. The saddest part is that the friendship fell apart only when I gained self esteem and set some boundaries.
I know you have great intentions, but please stop adding imaginary context when you say this person is an all-powerful A****E.
Sit in someone else’s seat before the flight, hope it’s free, then try to persuade them to change seats. paid for. I’m not sitting in the middle
They twist words to make you sound like the bad guy, so you feel the need to be careful how and what you say to them. Become conscious and walk on eggshells
If they constantly use trauma as an excuse for all the bad things they do.
A smile or laughter if someone made fun of someone. My mother told me how funny my smile was and how annoying it was for me to smile.
EDIT: Thanks to everyone for their support. Sorry to hear about your story. I would also like to mention that there is a difference between hating someone’s laughter and making fun of them. I’ve personally heard some laughs that I thought were a little weird, but the thought stuck in my head and it was something that could only affect me.
I live in Los Angeles, so this happens a lot, but basically whenever I talk to someone, it’s always about that person. If you give your point of view or interject something about yourself, they will quickly dismiss it and get back to you.
My ex slowly lost all his friends over time. She built a new one and then somehow burned those bridges as well.
She was also gossiping and talking shit about everyone she knew, including me.At least one of her friends she never met thought I was trash because of what she said about me.
Apologize in the middle of a fight, but get angry if the fight doesn’t end right away. Because I never felt really sorry and my only goal was to avoid repercussions. This becomes apparent when the behavior they apologize for continues to occur and is not remedied.
People on both sides of this equation, signed
They don’t understand the importance of parity in a relationship. You can’t always take and you can never give.
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