‘One of my neighborhood kids drowned in a pool last summer’: Parents think it’s wrong to let kids swim in pool
Losing a child is one of the worst things that can happen to anyone in life. The grieving process can take years, and ultimately you may not be able to get out of the trauma. But the harsh reality is that the world never stops spinning for everyone. not for you not for us. Not for anyone. Life goes on… And not everyone will be happy to respond to your grief.
Redditor u/thepool took a look at the AITA online community. sensitive questionThey and their family bought a new house with a pool. Sadly, it turns out that one of our neighbor’s children died in the same pool. Please note that the following topics are very sensitive topics that some people find uncomfortable reading.
Losing a loved one is a traumatic experience that affects every aspect of your life.
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The family moved to a new house, but because of what happened in the past, the neighbors were against letting the kids swim in the pool.
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The post’s author shared some details
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Pools can be very dangerous if children are not supervised
There are over 4,000 fatal unintentional drownings and 8,000 non-fatal drownings in the United States, including boat-related drownings. According to the CDCDrowning kills more children between the ages of 1 and 4 than any other cause. Meanwhile, for children ages 5 to 14, drowning is the second leading cause of unintentional injury and death, after car accidents. Non-fatal drowning can lead to brain damage and long-term disability. Most small children who drown die in pools.
The CDC said: 80% of those who die from drowning are men due to “increased water exposure, risk-taking behavior and alcohol use.” In addition, non-swimmers and poor swimmers are more likely to be injured or killed in water bodies. One way he combats this is by attending formal swimming lessons.
Another contributing factor to drowning is the lack of effective fencing around pools and bodies of water. Better fencing helps keep children in the neighborhood safe. Another thing that helps prevent drowning is better supervision from adults.
When considering buying a home, the family put practicality first.
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Unfortunately, my redditor account has been suspended, bored panda I haven’t been able to reach out to them and talk to them about what happened to the pool and neighbors. Everything gets incredibly emotional and no matter what you do (use the pool or pay to fill it up) someone is going to get the short end. of a stick.
A neighbor who lost a child to a pool party found it insensitive for a newly moved family to use the exact same pool for fun. I was thinking From their side, the situation is clear. Due to a traumatic event, the pool should not be used.
On the other side of the fence is a family that has been very down-to-earth about buying a house with a pool. “Normally it would have been out of our price range, but this was a good deal because one of our neighbor’s kids drowned in the pool last summer,” OP wrote. .
“I know it’s really morbid, but my husband and I have talked it over and decided we can get over it. It was big enough that every child could eventually have their own bedroom,” they explained why. I was focused on the problem.
For them, using the pool meant using the full extent of the property they had purchased with their hard-earned money. I did. However, they weren’t willing to sacrifice their family’s welfare just to sneak in a new neighbor.
How someone grieves depends on who they are
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everyone sadness is differentFor some, that may mean crying a lot. For others, it just doesn’t make them cry. It’s a mistake to think that everyone goes through the same process when they lose a loved one.
There is no limit to how long a person can grieve. Grief usually lessens over time, but not everyone fully “recovers” from the loss of a relative or child. These people may simply learn to live with grief and sorrow.
Supporting someone going through such a tragedy is essential. Ask them how they are and let them talk. Everyone needs different things, and what might work for some people might be wrong for others. , some need distraction. Reaching out to a therapist can help you move forward.