‘I had to take years of therapy for her’: Woman told family she didn’t want twin sister to be her bridesmaid

From the Olsen sisters’ comedies to J.K. Rowling’s books, we all know stories about twins’ extraordinary attachment, both in real life and in popular culture. Moreover, as a proud father of two twin daughters, I can personally testify that many of these stories are true. Unfortunately, the opposite can also happen.

In fact, not only do twins have a strong bond, they can have an equally strong competitive spirit, especially if the parent loses sight of this moment in raising the twins. Turns out, it’s always good to support and protect your sister or brother.

A good example of this is this story Appeared in AITA Reddit community A few days ago, it clearly touched some strings in the reader’s mind. At least for now, the original post boasts almost 9.9K upvotes and about 1.1K different comments. Enough to break this story down in detail.

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The author of this post has twin sisters who were very close when they were little

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So the original poster is now 25 and getting married soon. And this story is related to her upcoming wedding. More precisely, the presence of her twin sister at that wedding is approaching. It seems logical.

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But in high school, my sister started alienating the author

According to the original poster, when they were kids, she and her sister were very close, but then she went to high school and things changed radically. , the author himself was a “shy, nerdy bookworm”. Teenagers can be very cruel, and in the pursuit of popularity, the OP’s sister shunned and avoided twins.

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No, we’re not talking about bullying or insulting her at all, but when one of her classmates mocked the OP, the sisters did nothing to stop it. , my sister treated OP as if nothing had happened.

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My sister gave her $100 and said she was too sick to attend the joint birthday party.

Since the girl turned 16, the OP’s sister was in a fuss, and the author himself had no friends, she had no intention of throwing a party. She secretly offered $100 and said she was ill.OP recalls she received the money afterward.

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Additionally, the girls attended various colleges across the country. The OP recalls his sister trying to maintain a relationship with her, but she calmly refused because the traumatic experience of losing her sister and best friend alone was still fresh in her mind. In the OP’s own words, she tried to be polite in her communication, but nothing more. She kept her sister at arm’s length.

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Now the author is about to get married and does not want her sister to be her maid of honor.

And now that the OP is planning her wedding, she wants her bridesmaids to be her own friends from her sorority. However, according to the author, it was better not to add drama, so he invited his sister.

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My sister burst into tears upon hearing this, but did not apologize.

OP, on the other hand, couldn’t stand the words he heard over and over again from the twins, “But what will other people think when I’m with you?” Ultimately, the sister believes the past should be left in the past, but never apologized. No one should blame her for such behavior during her school days.

The parents agreed with the OP’s sister, but the author himself flatly refused to make her a maid of honor, recalling years of having to undergo therapy for her “Why should someone who thinks they are better than them be a bridesmaid?” asks the woman.

Parents or school officials should have talked to girls at school, experts say

“Perhaps the parents missed the moment when the sisters began to move away from the original poster,” says Irina Matveeva Psychologist and Certified NLP Specialistwho asked bored panda I would like to comment on this situation. “The girl believed that communication with her overly reserved sister would cast a shadow in the eyes of others and somehow humiliate her. The people involved should have noticed that and somehow spoken to the girls.”

Apparently, this didn’t happen and the OP went into adulthood with a mental trauma that resulted in, by her own admission, having to fix for a long time. Be that as it may, she is now a self-sufficient adult and does not need to impose other people’s opinions. .

Most commentators sided with the author, and some even suggested offering his sister $100 to miss the wedding.

People in the comments have also been very supportive of the original poster, saying that this is her own wedding and it’s up to her to decide who will stand by her on the big day. “The person standing next to you should be someone you feel supported by,” one commented.

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Commentators are also surprised that her parents are forcing opinions and roles regarding the twins’ OP, even though she sent them an invitation. “Family is a privilege, not a right,” one commenter noted. Well, someone even suggested that the OP promise $100 to the twins who didn’t attend the wedding…

By the way, weddings are often a source of incredibly bizarre stories. For example, the story about this “guestzilla”. who ordered fast food Continue to reception.and you might also like this post of us About the relatives, who began to weave intrigues behind the newlyweds, asked the groom for help in work, as if nothing had happened. And, of course, we welcome your comments on this particular story.