New Dad Asks For Tips On How To Make His woman’s Life Easier, Gets swamped With Replies
Becoming a parent is a wonder, but it’s also kind of Terrible. Unless you’ve already had kids, there’s no way to really know what to hope for. The best you can do is be ready as much as you can.
“Bring this book: The Expectant Father.”
“I’ve gone through a few first time dad books and they all treat you like an idiot except this one.I found the bulk of the information super helpful and intresting. My wife loved that I was as focused on what’s happening to her and the baby as she was.”
“Aside from the book, be interested in her. Don’t be afraid to ask her if there’s something you can do to help or make her feel more comfortable.”
“If she’s feeling ill, go out of your way to find things that will help. Don’t even ask if she wants you to get it, just research and take some stuff up for her. Look up some prenatal massage techniques to ease her discomfort.”
“Better yet, look up skillful massage places near you that offer prenatal massage.”
“Ultimately, just putting in the effort to help her and to prepare yourselves for this big change is going to go a long way. Congratulations, bud!”
“Dad of 4 here. Preemptively plan for food that is needed, and be active in jumping in and assisting with things you’re easy to do.”
“There will be a span of time when you’re pushed a little away and a lot of guys take that personally when they’re used to being front and centre. Embrace the support role, don’t need anything from your partner but give 110%.”
“Be the first to change the diaper, jump up to wash bottles and replace towels and blankets.”
Delivery is exhausting in a position we will never understand, now is the time to embrace that support part and expect nothing back and be completely ok with it. It could last longer than you suppose, but a good pater and master is the gemstone the mama and baby can stand on. Be that and love it.”
“Try to generate y’all get your own time.”
“Draw her a bath while you do whatever, get her a massage while you hang with your boys etc. But always ALWAYS made time for her. For emotional and environmental support.”
“I’d usually make my wife dinner…”
“…and then run belly butter on her belly (helps prevent stretch marks and is claiming for her and the baby) and read up on fathering as much as you can young man. Godspeed and best of luck!”
“Take a large number of pictures with the baby.”
“As a mother, I can tell you my son has millions of pictures with every single family member and friend and maybe three of them are with me.”
